Best Divorce Lawyer In Brooklyn – How Important is “Me Time” in a Relationship?
Meeting someone, falling in love, and wanting to spend every moment together is a classic cornerstone of almost every new relationship. It’s exciting to fall in love. It’s fun to share all the new “firsts” together. It’s wonderful to be a “we” instead of an “I” and to really be part of a lifelong team with someone. However, every relationship is made up of individual players who have individual wants and needs in order to be the best teammate and partner they can be. Each spouse or partner may have different wants and needs, and they do not always line up. In fact, sometimes one spouse loathes the activities the other one enjoys. (For example, I enjoy running. I like to run 5k’s and marathons and everything in between. My husband ran one half marathon with me, declared it the Worst Day Ever and said he would never do that again.)
Attorney Val Kleyman, rated Best Divorce Lawyer in Brooklyn, says that while spending time with a spouse or significant other should be a top priority, so too should be taking some “me time.” “As long as you are not engaged in an activity that could hurt your relationship, alone time has numerous benefits such as gratification from doing an enjoyable activity to becoming more in touch with thoughts, feelings, and emotions.” says Kleyman. Spending “me time” can help an individual grow as a person, and can be a good time to be more in tune with one’s needs. It can also help one check in with the status of their relationship with their partner, friends, and family. The trick is to find a balance in which time is spent together in the relationship as well as apart. It goes without saying that too much alone time can and will hurt any relationship.
Taking some time to oneself is also an excellent opportunity to check in with the status of the relationship. For example, how does the spouse or significant other react about the prospect of taking time to be individuals? Are they supportive? Do they want to hear about it at the conclusion? Are they happy? Those are all signs a relationship could be positive, where all involved are encouraged to grow individually and closer together.
On the other hand, is the spouse or significant other angry? Are they annoyed? Do they make their partner feel guilty about wanting some alone time? If so, Best divorce lawyer in Brooklyn Val Kleyman says those could be red flags that the relationship could be, or growing into, a codependent relationship or even something more sinister. If a partner taking some time to themselves is made to feel guilty about it, they should check in with themselves to see if they truly feel safe in their relationship. Does their partner frequently make them feel guilty about small things? Are they always supposed to be at their partner’s beck and call? Do they feel that this relationship is healthy for them?
There is absolutely no one-size-fits-all approach for taking time to oneself in a relationship, however, maintaining a relationship with yourself is just as important as spending time with your partner.
Val Kleyman is the founding partner of the Kleyman Law Firm, handling divorce and family law matters and is rated as a Best Divorce Lawyer in Brooklyn. The Kleyman Law Firm is located at One Rockefeller Plaza, 11th Floor, New York, NY. For more info go to https://nyc-divorcelawyer.com, email: vkleyman@kleymanfirm.com or call 212-401-1977.
